I haven't written in a very long time, but I have been so agitated today and yesterday I felt compelled to get out at least some of my frustrations.
My wonderful daughter Megan turned 11 on Sunday and because her birthday is so close to Thanksgiving we usually end up having her birthday parties the first weekend in December.
Megan wanted to have a sleep over birthday party again this year because last years was an amazing success.
I asked Megan who she wanted to invite and her formerly best friend was not invited. I was fine with this because this girl is very dominate and won't let the other girls get a word in edge wise. We took her trick or treating and she dominate the entire night, and she always has some big "story" to tell, and I do not care what a kid tells her they have done, this girl has done it more as well as better. So when Megan said she didn't want to invite her I was thrilled because I knew that all the others kids that were coming to the sleep over were good girls, and the type of girls anyone would want to have around. We knew though that if this certain girl found out that she was not invited there would be an issue. Megan passed out her invitation while this girl was out of town for Thanksgiving thinking we could just avoid the whole situation. And of course true to the Stites family form we do not have any good luck. Megan took cupcakes to school Monday for all her classmates for her birthday and of course this girl in question is in Megan's class. So one she found out that Megan's birthday was the day before, and two some one told this girl that Megan was having a sleep over birthday party. So yesterday I am at work and my cell rings. I don't answer it because I was working and because I did not want to talk to this little girls mom that was now calling me. I could not think of a reason why this Mother was calling me as she has only called me like 3 times all school year. So I let her call go to voicemail. Finally I worked up the courage to listen to her message while I was on break.
The following is a direct transcript of her message.
"I it's _____, ______ mom. I am just calling to confirm with you. _______ is upset today, she believes that Megan came to school and is having a birthday party this weekend and she was not invited, which is fine I am not asking you to change your guest list, of course Megan can invite whomever she wishes and doesn't wish to invite to her birthday party.But I just wanted to confirm that with you so that I can talk with ______ and have it explained the proper way. So if you could call me back to that I can confirm with you yes Megan is having a party and yes ______ isn't invited or no I am sorry it was and oversight and _______ is invited, just so I can take care of it properly"
Are you kidding?? Should I have called every girl in the 6th grade and tell their Mothers that their Daughters were not invited and why they weren't invited so that their Mother's could "properly handle the situation."
If my Daughter found out some one was having a Birthday Party and Megan wasn't invited I would NEVER call up the mom to find out why, and then tell them it was so I could "properly handle the situation."
Megan has been coming home for weeks complaining about this girl and how much she doesn't want to hang out with her anymore because this little girl "lies and brags all the time." I told Megan that if she doesn't want to be friends with this girl anymore to just start distancing herself from her, but to not be mean or rude and say " I don't want to be your friend anymore." Megan says she has tried that approach and that the girl just won't take a hint and follows her everywhere. Well this last week this girl in question finally started hanging out with another girl and leaving Megan alone. I had Megan had out her birthday invitations when this girl was out of town for Thanksgiving so as to avoid her feelings being hurt. This phone call was ridiculous, and I could not believe that some one would have the nerve to call me like this.
Guess what crazy Mom of the girl that is making my Daughter miserable, We can invited and not invite whomever we want to OUR party, but gee thanks for your permission to do so.
This classmate in question is very strange. When we were at the School's Fall Festival my Husband called my Daughter "sweetie" and this child says to my Husband, "Megan can be your sweetie, and I can be your honey bear." WHAT?? Then later my Husband said to some kids that Megan was his Daughter, and this classmate says to my Husband "well I am your Daughter too aren't I?" My Husband and I looked at each other like this little girl was a nut job. Who does that? I mean I have not been thrilled by this little girl from the beginning and was patiently waiting for Megan's and her relationship to fall apart, and I was so excited that was finally happening and then this Mom starts to be weird too.
We had our fill of the weird and crazy classmates mom in the 4th grade. That mom was the craziest I have ever come across, and I almost had to get a order of protection against that mom. That crazy mom left me very aggressive and threatening messages on my cell phone, and I had to play them for the Prinicpal, and he agreed that mom in question was a nut job. My kid and I are still shell shocked by that mom and her Daughter. The Daughter wasn't as scary as the mom was, but the daughter was the one that was throwing gas on a fire to get attention from her mom, even when what she was telling her mom wasn't true. She just liked the attention and didn't have any idea how her mom acted toward Megan and I.
I still get the hair on my arms standing up thinking about that wretched woman I will call "G".
She would call me yelling and saying insulting things, and threatening me and cursing. Because my mom taught me to not fight mean and dirty and I am a lady I did not act like her in return. Well she took this as a sign of weakness in me for not acting like she was acting, and it didn't help. I would hang up on her rather than me say things I would regret or didn't think was fighting fair, and she said that me hanging up was immature. Really? I thought given the choices it was the highest road to take. First, you can not argue with crazy people, and she was crazy. Two, people like G love fights and will fight over anything they aren't picky, they just like the feeling and think it is a power trip. Finally, I wanted to stay on higher ground and be able to say to the Principal or the Cops that I didn't do anything to her. After her harassing me a few times, I got smart and blocked her phone number from ever being able to call my phone.
The last couple of years have been nice with no drama from that whacky family, but I feel like I could be on the cusp of another strange family. I do not know what it is about me but I can promise you that if they is a weird or crazy person anywhere in a 3 mile radius around me they will find me. I attract weird and crazy people.
What is happening to our society that schools can't have winners and losers because it might hurt some ones feelings or hurt their confidence so "everyone is a winner", and we can't invite whomever we want to our own private birthday parties because some one might get their feelings hurt.
Give me a break! When I was growing up it wasn't like this and we all grew up fine. So where did all this garbage come from. No not everyone can win all the time, yes people are going to lose. No, not everyone should have to be invited so as no ones' feelings get hurt. It is okay to only invite the people you want at your house and your party. Just like when your kid is at my house they will have to follow my rules. And believe me I have easy rules at my house for guest. Rule 1. If your hungry or thirsty help yourself, my house is your house. Rule 2, Treat me house at least as well as you treat your own house. Rule 3, when you are with me and I am responsible for you then you have to follow my rules and not run off because if you get hurt or lost then I am responsible for that as well. Rule 4, please do not steal from me because if you ask me for something I will probably give it to you. Rule 5, I will treat you like you are one of my kids, so I will make sure you are happy, fed, and comfortable. If these rules bother you then you probably should not come over to visit with us.
I would just wish that parents would teach their kids manners and that you should not smart off to adults, and treat others peoples property with respect.
This same girl that was not invited to our party when she went trick or treating with us smarted off to me when I asked if she had told a home owner that had just given her candy "thank you." She said "I don't want to say Thank you", and then another time she told me "I said thank you, I just said it under my breath and you didn't hear it." I told her "well if you said it under your breathe then the people at that house most likely didn't hear you". I am sorry if you want to hang with my family then you have to have common courtesy and be polite, because your behavior reflects back to me and my family.
So anyways, we have 6 lovely girls coming to the sleep over this weekend. All the girls that are coming are very nice girls with manners, and I won't have to worry about one girl dominating all the other girls, or have anyone that will brag to everyone about everything. Also if a girls says she has done something, this girl will not say she has also done it, but done it more and much better. Megan and I do not want any headaches this weekend, plus like the saying goes "you are only as good as the people you surround yourself with".
The plan for the sleep over is to have a fashion show in the fancy dresses that I have bought Megan for playing dressup, I also have several different size high heels for the girls to wear, and lots of pretty jewelry. Then we are doing blind make-overs. That is when a blind folded person applies or attempts to apply make-up to your face. Then they are making a cake that looks like a cookie with a frosting filling. We are going to watch movies, play games, I am going to shoot the fashion show with my camera. And many more activities. Then for dinner is spaghetti, garlic bread, and salad. For breakfast is eggs, and pancakes that can be colored or made in a shape of something, as well as you can make your pancakes into a smiley face with fruit and bacon and whip cream.
So I will post pictures after the party this weekend, but first I will post pics of my Daughter before and after her hair-cut.
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